Today’s post is taken from the book, Devotions of Comfort and Hope for Adoptive & Foster Moms, found on page 15. (The devotional is FREE for those who have Kindle Unlimited on Amazon.) I wrote the devotional along with adoptive mom, Lisa Edmunds; this is one her writing pieces. Lisa is an amazing writer, and she truly gets to the heart of what it’s like for moms as they journey through hard times with their kiddos.
“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
Galatians 6:9 (NIV)
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This is the hardest work you might ever do. For worn out parents that feels insurmountable to hear but this is not a sprint it is journey and slow and steady wins the race. Be easy with yourself, forgive yourself, give yourself permission to feel all the emotions you do, they are normal they are human. Tell yourself I can and know that you are not alone. Do the best you can and then lean heavily on your faith, your family, your therapist, your friends. you are doing a very special job you have been appointed to do, you are the perfect person for your child.
With that said, this does not mean you do not need a break, a getaway, a sitter or even everyone having quiet time in their rooms, so you can catch your breath. Some days will be awful, some days good but most will have a little bit of both. It is all ok. Your kids are raising their red flags for help, to let you know they hurt, this is not a personal affront, no matter how it feels. Breathe, smile and then do the best you can. You are not alone and you can do this but not with out breaks and time for yourself.
My Daily Prayer
Heavenly Father, there are many times I feel like giving up and I think that all the therapies and activities we’re doing are in vain. Lord, sustain me, guide me to the right professionals as I diligently work to heal my child from her past abandonment and hurt. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Carol Lozier is a therapist, author, and blogger specializing in trauma; and adoptive and foster kids, teens, and adults. Ms. Lozier is in private practice in Louisville, KY.